Kindergarten life is an important preparatory process for primary school experience. Gonca Erman Specialist Psychologist from ELELE Child and Family Psychological Counseling Development and Training Center Bilinç A kindergarten experience guided consciously by parents and teachers meets the child's age-appropriate eğitim education with play, and strengthens the equipment for a long education journey that begins with primary school. ”
However, the kindergarten is an ideal environment for the child to spend at least a few hours per day, as long as the school is an institution in the form of a school, which means that the child follows a training program that improves his social, cognitive and emotional competences through play. Unfortunately, the necessity of attending kindergarten remains a controversial topic. Whether or not the mother is in working life is seen as a connection to whether the child goes to kindergarten. Psychologist Gonca Erman says: “From the age of 2, the child is more concrete about separating himself from the mother. This is an indication of the child's need to socialize. Because the child discovers his own self more easily in the social environment alongside the “others”. An alternative authority / teacher figure to the mother / father, the factor of other children interested in the same toys, provides an efficient development environment for the enrichment of the child's more limited world at home. Toys should be shared in the kindergarten environment, resources should be used in order, and all children should follow the teacher's program flow, that is, as in the outside world, there should be an established order in the play environment.
Parents must be ready
It is a very important factor for the parents to digest this decision when they decide to start kindergarten. The parent's comfort is also reflected in the child. It is observed by the experts that the child of the parents who are ready is more accustomed to kindergarten. The parent's concerns about whether to send the child to kindergarten can create a belief that the child may or may not go to kindergarten. “However, in a few years, primary school will certainly go, and this is not an issue that is open to discussion, Psik says Psychologist Erman. important, the child must be introduced to the right kindergarten. Choosing the right kindergarten is about raising parents' awareness. Generally, the first research starts with kindergartens close to home, but the proximity of home-kindergarten distance is not the right criterion for choice. Visiting several kindergartens is always beneficial in terms of providing a wealth of evaluation. When visiting kindergartens, it is necessary to take some time to question the contents of the educational program and to observe what children are doing during the day. It is important to keep in mind that it is your most natural right to ask questions about what you have wondered, and to observe how warmly and sincerely your research is met by the kindergarten staff, to predict how the person you will entrust your child will communicate with your child. When visiting kindergartens, choosing the hours of the day when the number of children and program flow is busy provides a more accurate idea of the daily flow. The kindergarten authorities will advise you on how your child will attend the kindergarten according to age. ”
Increase time in kindergarten
Kindergartens can follow a flexible program according to the age of the child and the needs of the family. The important thing is that the program offered by the school can meet you at a common point. Your child can start by spending shorter hours in kindergarten first, which is the right app for every age group. It is possible to create the most appropriate program for your child under the supervision of the authorities in the school, as your child's confidence in the school increases and you observe the process. Psychologist Erman says: inde It is very important for a person who has time from the family to accompany the child at school. This accompaniment should be limited to going to school with the child and waiting in a place recommended by the school authorities. The child should be handed over to the child teacher at the school and given the message that you will expect the child in the section allocated to you at school. Thus, the child will be acquainted with the teacher and the environment, while at the same time being comforted by the physical presence of a family member in the school, which affects the separation process in a healthy way. As the days progress, the parents come and go to school only as carriers, there is no need to wait. When this happens will depend entirely on the child's character, the school's orientation and the fact that you really want this separation. But on average, it is about a month for a child to become fully accustomed. ”
Let him know when to pick him up from school.
Keep in mind that sharing your time when you return to school will give the child confidence. It is a comfort to share the time you will return, not by hours, but by giving examples of the timing in his mind. Keep in mind that giving examples of timing, such as sonra after you have lunch ”, ince when the rest is over, somut will allow your child to follow the program flow concretely and make himself more dominant. At this point, psychologist Erman warns mothers who do not work in particular: larda At first she will want to know what you are doing during your day at school. It is her natural right to want to know why you should be dropped off at a school and that you should be somewhere else. For working mothers' children it may be a little easier to grasp. However, in situations where the mother is not working, it is important to tell the child that school life is a part of the child's daily life. Already as children get used to school, connect with their teachers and enjoy the school, they will adopt the idea that school life is a routine for them. In the process of getting used to this kindergarten, being honest with the child, sharing what the child will be doing during school hours and returning to the child at the promised time are the factors facilitating the child's work. ”
During the adjustment period, the child's emotional reactions may fluctuate slightly. It can hurt. In the evening, before going to bed and leaving the house in the morning, anxious facial expressions may increase, suggesting alternative programs to go to school, and observe very carefully how these efforts will react to you. Your decisive and clear standing is very important at this stage. It is very effective to stick to the rule of “The time that is decided to leave for the school will be spent at school ve and to defend it and to establish order. Psychologist Erman says: “Making concessions undermines the process of getting used to kindergarten and gives your child a message that he or she can control you. However, decisions about the school are parents' decisions. It may be useful to have a second visit to your kindergarten with your child, to observe your child in that environment, and to create an opportunity to see the mutual communication between teachers and your child. It may be boring for you to visit every kindergarten you visit with your child because they are short visits in the end and are confusing as to what the child should expect about the school. In this process, the child's enjoyment of school enough to adapt to the decision of the family is the ideal point for the happiness of both the family and the child. ”
Do not force him to tell his day
The fact that the child starts to remember the time he spent in school more joyfully, sharing his experiences at home is a sign that the child has adopted the school. At this point, the parents should not insist on the child. If the child wants to, he will share his day. Just because she doesn't want to say something doesn't mean her day was bad, or she didn't like school. “Parents can be a model for children to share with their anecdotes from their own days. Olog Psychologist Erman says:“ For example örnek I met my friend and my friend today ”, im I ate ğinde today at lunch uğu, and the child shared about his own day. It can encourage. A few days before the first day of school it is necessary to inform the child about what a change he expects. It is enough to motivate the child through the concept of “play ilgili about what is done throughout the day at school. Giving too much information about school life can be misleading. Although the process is not very uncertain, it is necessary to balance the child's expectations. Allowing the child to explore the kindergarten life together with the teacher at his or her own pace allows the school to adopt it as a social space of its own. As a result, the kindergarten aims to create a productive environment for the cognitive, emotional and social development of the child, to spend a critical period such as 0-6 years with rich educational content and to prepare the basis for the long-term education process that will start with primary school. As long as this preschool period starts with a conscious choice of school which will ensure that kindergarten is a pleasant process for both children and family……
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