Baby Development

Everything about children and etiquette

Everything about children and etiquette

The period of 6-8 years is very important for children, during which the child discovers his social self. Children of this age are very active, with greater muscle development than smaller muscle development. Physical abilities gain more importance in terms of the value they attach to them and the influence of others. During this period, the child makes many friends when he starts school. Now friends become more rigorous in their choices. The role of friends in the process of school adaptation is great. If the friendship in the school is going well, they love the school. But if there is something wrong with their relationship, they may not want to go to school or they will be reluctant. They like small group games, but in this circuit they react to changing rules in group games because they perceive the rules as absolute and unchangeable in terms of moral development. They have invariable ideas, such as the fact that the rules are not broken or only changed by themselves.

In this period, they impose intense but short-lived meanings on friendship relations. Fights and quarrels in friendship relations. It is seen that boys prefer physical aggression and girls prefer verbal aggression. The child of this age is very sensitive to criticism and aggressive attitudes in friendship relationships, and can easily feel productive or incompetent. In such cases, the teacher should be as supportive as possible and remind the rules of etiquette where necessary. It would be very useful for the teacher to talk about the criticism of the children should not be offensive, and to indicate that the problems should be solved by speaking rather than aggressively. Similarly, in the home environment, close family members should act as motivating for the child and remind the rules of etiquette. Children of this age are very keen on talking. Teachers in the classroom should warn these age children to speak and wait for their turn when parents are often at home. Children of this age also love to complain. This is due to their strict perceptions of the rules of moral development and their failure to take into account the intent behind behavior.

All this is mentioned; as a result of the child trying to find answers to the questions of who am I, who are the individuals around me, what is the distance between me and them. In other words, the child tries to understand his place in society during this period. In this period, it is very important for the family to evaluate the child well and to make appropriate guidance in cases where the child may encounter. When the child starts school, he / she finds himself / herself in a class, friend and play environment. These new social environments she participates direct her to participate in group activities and to communicate with her friends. In this phase, children who learn basic rules of etiquette get approval and acceptance more quickly in this new social environment. The approved child's sense of belonging increases, his sense of self-confidence develops and helps the child to be sociable during the socialization process. The basic training of etiquette begins primarily in the family. Children take into account practical examples and imitate, and do not pay much attention to verbal warnings. For example, if you want something from your child, ask not to order. Thank you, please do not drop your language when you speak to your child.

Tell your child what you want them to do, not what they should not do, and praise their good behavior. The etiquette is very important in learning the rules of harmony between parents. Parents should not violate the rules unilaterally. In addition to the first education in the family, the rules of etiquette in the society should be learned. Examples of rules that should be applied in the community are; not to throw trash on the street, not to pollute the environment, to treat people with respect, to be sharing and harmonious in friendship relations. As mentioned earlier, in order for the child to learn these behaviors, the close family members that the child modeled should also follow these rules. If the family members do not follow these rules, the child will not be able to adopt them because they cannot internalize these behaviors. Children who respect people, have conscience, make peace with themselves, control their emotions and express themselves can only grow in families where healthy communication exists. Children need to be supported and practiced to learn etiquette. Etiquette should be taught in a quiet environment. In a social setting, if the child needs to be warned of his behavior, this should be done without shame by gently setting aside the child.